Sending love from sunny Jamaica! Having such a good time…
After a long, long time, yesterday, I saw Noel for the first time. It was a little tough, but in the end, it was great to see him again. We had the best talk, and resolved a bit. Closure. It’s good.
One thing we spoke about was this blog and how old friends from the feederism world are angry about my appearance on Judith Angel’s The Angel Hour. Noel offered to show support for me. He just posted a statement on his blog linkstobeauty.tumblr.com, and I’ve added it below.
I’m in Jamaica now, and I’m taking a few days off! See ya on the flip side…
Much has been said about my relationship with Jesse Marie Scott. Let me be clear: I hold no ill will or resentment toward Jesse. I hear many of you in the feederism community are sending angry emails and posting vindictive comments on her blog. I’m asking you publicly to cease these actions immediately.
Judith Angel manipulated the video footage of Jesse for her show “The Fed, The Dead,” and what you saw is not what Jesse intended the world to see. This television show hurt Jesse and me in more ways than you can imagine, and we both wish to move on.
People often write and ask about my current relationship. I no longer speak about my personal life in public. I respect privacy of others, and I ask people to respect my privacy, too.
Please, respect Jesse. She is working hard to move on with her life after the slander Judith
Visit Jesse at jessemariescott.wordpress.com
Doctors can be such ***holes. Not all, but many are insensitive and have bad bedside manners. They don’t know how to talk to fat people because they aren’t fat, they have no perspective, and they compromise their scruples because of money the diet industry pumps into their pockets. The only thing worse than the diet industry is the insurance industry. Many doctors are puppets of these two industries. What happened to the oaths doctors took to make people healthier? Instead, doctors work to prop up corporate powers that make it more difficult to be happy and healthy.
There aren’t enough doctors out there who care for the health of their patients. Doctors push lapbands for people who don’t even need it. As reported by Big Fat Blog, “the government just lowered the approved BMI for people in the 35-40 bmi range and for anyone with a 30-35 bmi and a weight-correlated condition or risk factor.”
It’s hard to know what’s accurate, but there are some great resources out there, like Fat Health. Loads of good posts and links to help you become fully informed on how to stay healthy.
Seek out good information. Don’t believe the hype.
There’s a big debate right now about we who blog about fat acceptance. Commenters and other bloggers think I’m pushing fat to be the norm. On the contrary, I am pushing for you to be you. If you’re thin, be thin. If you’re fat, be fat. But, don’t let someone stigmatize you for it. If there’s one thing I’ve learned, I don’t need to have other people telling me what is good or bad for my body (thank you very much, Judith Angel). You don’t live in this body. I do. Only I know how I feel emotionally, physically, and spiritually. How I live is between me and my God. You don’t have to understand it. Just accept it.
Far be it from me to push how I live on others. I said this about feederism, and I’ll say it about my current lifestyle – different strokes for different folks.
I do consider myself an activist. This is where the two become one. When I present myself as a Fat Activist, that means I’m advocating for anyone who has been called names, been turned down from a job because they’re too big, or seen any other kind of prejudice because of weight. I’m encouraging people to be healthy at any size.
Heath at Every Size (HAES) is an amazing way of viewing life. It’s about being healthy and heavy. Yes, you can be. It doesn’t mean you have to lose those 10 pounds, if you’re active and eating well. Some people can’t shed the pounds. That’s how they’re made.
1. Accepting and respecting the diversity of body shapes and sizes.
2. Recognizing that health and well-being are multi-dimensional and that they include
physical, social, spiritual, occupational, emotional, and intellectual aspects.
3. Promoting all aspects of health and well-being for people of all sizes.
4. Promoting eating in a manner which balances individual nutritional needs, hunger,
satiety, appetite, and pleasure.
5. Promoting individually appropriate, enjoyable, life-enhancing physical activity, rather
than exercise that is focused on a goal of weight loss.
So do I want to be accepted for who I am? Heck, yeah. And, I’m going to advocate for that acceptance.
Happy New Year, one and all. I feel like the past year was a blur in many ways. For over a whole year, I haven’t had a home. The first twelve months were at Brookstone Medical as I worked to lose several hundred pounds, and the last three months I’ve been in Toledo, Ohio, staying with my sister, who also is going through major life changes.
Most people I meet talk about how they hope 2011 will be better than 2010. It’s interesting when people collectively feel pain. The past two years or so have been a collective struggle – economically, psychologically and emotionally. When times like these occur, I truly believe they are meant to bring us together. Typically, people experience pain as individuals, but these great collective struggles exist so we can have empathy for each other. If we see others’ perspectives, we treat each other better.
I’m not saying I wish there were more economic crises, wars or natural disasters, but you have to admit, when they happen, we humans band together. It doesn’t matter if you’re big, small, brown, or white – we take care of each other.
New Year’s resolutions have always felt like a bit of a joke to me, but I’m resolving to make one and take it seriously this year. In 2010, I focused on myself, but in 2011, I’m going to focus on you. Whoever you are. If you’re reading this, I’m focusing on you. I want to help you, if I can. I want to help understand your perspective better, and I want to help you realize if you are happy – truly happy – with the way you live your life, you shouldn’t worry about what anyone else thinks of you. It’s true. They can’t do you any harm.
Be safe, and Happy 2011!