Jamaica

5 Mar

Sending love from sunny Jamaica!  Having such a good time…

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A Note of Support from Noel Spencer

2 Mar

After a long, long time, yesterday, I saw Noel for the first time.  It was a little tough, but in the end, it was great to see him again.  We had the best talk, and resolved a bit.  Closure.  It’s good.

One thing we spoke about was this blog and how old friends from the feederism world are angry about my appearance on Judith Angel’s The Angel Hour.  Noel offered to show support for me.  He just posted a statement on his blog linkstobeauty.tumblr.com, and I’ve added it below.

I’m in Jamaica now, and I’m taking a few days off!  See ya on the flip side…

NOEL’S STATEMENT

Much has been said about my relationship with Jesse Marie Scott.  Let me be clear: I hold no ill will or resentment toward Jesse.  I hear many of you in the feederism community are sending angry emails and posting vindictive comments on her blog.  I’m asking you publicly to cease these actions immediately.

Judith Angel manipulated the video footage of Jesse for her show “The Fed, The Dead,” and what you saw is not what Jesse intended the world to see.  This television show hurt Jesse and me in more ways than you can imagine, and we both wish to move on.

People often write and ask about my current relationship.  I no longer speak about my personal life in public. I respect privacy of others, and I ask people to respect my privacy, too.

Please, respect Jesse.  She is working hard to move on with her life after the slander Judith

Visit Jesse at jessemariescott.wordpress.com

With Warmth,

Noel Spencer

Fat Health – Don’t Believe the Hype

27 Feb

Doctors can be such ***holes.  Not all, but many are insensitive and have bad bedside manners.  They don’t know how to talk to fat people because they aren’t fat, they have no perspective, and they compromise their scruples because of money the diet industry pumps into their pockets. The only thing worse than the diet industry is the insurance industry.  Many doctors are puppets of these two industries.  What happened to the oaths doctors took  to make people healthier?  Instead, doctors work to prop up corporate powers that make it more difficult to be happy and healthy.

There aren’t enough doctors out there who care for the health of their patients.  Doctors push lapbands for people who don’t even need it.  As reported by Big Fat Blog, “the government just lowered the approved BMI for people in the 35-40 bmi range and for anyone with a 30-35 bmi and a weight-correlated condition or risk factor.”

It’s hard to know what’s accurate, but there are some great resources out there, like Fat Health.  Loads of good posts and links to help you become fully informed on how to stay healthy.

Seek out good information.  Don’t believe the hype.

Go West Young Woman

16 Feb

Last weekend, Dan Savage, who writes for Slog, wrote a “satirical” post as a response to an Iowa senator using old, debunked statistics in an attempt to take down gay marriage in the buckeye state.

To do this, Dan suggests:

Iowa should ban fat marriage. There are, according to the state of Iowa, more than 1.4 million obese people living in Iowa. That’s nearly 30% of the state’s population, and those numbers just keep rising. The social costs of Iowa’s obesity epidemic are pretty staggering—and those costs include including premature death and lower average life expectancies for Iowans.

Lindy West, a fatastic, fabulous blogger, who also writes for Slog, responded with great thoughts as to why Dan is (and always has been) a fatty hater.

Then Dan responds, reprimanding Lindy for cherry picking offensive quotes from his past articles.  Yet, he is guilty of the same thing in his post about gay marriage.  He cites an article that is based on a 2007 study covered on the BBC about weight gain being “contagious.”  I’ve already stated my thoughts on that ludicrous assertion here, but Dan’s misuse of this article and reconstruction of his own blogging history is what is most disheartening.

Another egregious misstep Dan makes is not addressing or condemning fatty haters who comment to his blog posts all throughout.  If he truly wanted to show he isn’t prejudice against fat people, he would defend us.  Instead, he response to Lindy by doing his own cherry-picking from past articles “proving” he isn’t prejudice.  And, he disables comments!  What a wuss.

Here’s an example of a comment of hate:

I don’t care, fat people are A.) expensive and 2.) SO annoying when sitting next to one any airplane. Christ, MUST you all breath SO loud?! I know you just walked 200 yards in short bursts which is more exercise than probably your collective life, but JESUS H, STFU. It’s like sitting next to Vader.

AND

Back in 2004, Dan reacted to the angry responses with snide remarks.

One woman stated:

I stand a glorious five foot two and weigh a beautiful 450 pounds. My fellow sisters and I apologize to no one for our looks. We were born this way. THE HATE MUST STOP!

Dan’s response?

First off, you were born five foot two, 450 pounds? Did your mother burst like a seedpod?

Next to this particular column sits a disgusting cartoon portraying a 450 pound baby bursting out of her mother.  It is anti-fat, anti-woman and anti-fellow human being.

Basically, I’m calling bull*hit, Dan.

You put up old arguments that don’t hold water, and when you play the “I was a fat kid card,” you demean all those kids who couldn’t lose the weight because of genetics.  You are not one of us Dan.  Your stance on issues of weight is full of vitriol and resentment.

Dan, the obvious antipathy you have for fat people feels personally motivated. I wonder if you chide your inner child by lashing out against we who weren’t able to grow out of our baby fat.

13 Feb

Heather MacAllistar is one of my heroes.  She was the Artistic Director of The Original Fat-Bottom Revue.  She was at the forefront of the Fat Acceptance movement, and sadly she passed away of Ovarian Cancer four years ago today.  I never got to see her perform live, but her story is so inspiring and instrumental to how I feel about being sexy at any size.

Heather said:

Any time there is a fat person onstage as anything besides the butt of a joke, it’s political.  Add physical movement, then dance, then sexuality, and you have a revolutionary act.


This picture was shot by Mr. Spock, himself, Leonard Nimoy.  A few years back, Mr. Nimoy created The Full Body Project, where he photographed Heather and her burlesque troupe.  As part of his artistic statement Mr. Nimoy says:

These women are projecting an image that is their own. And one that also stems from their own story rather than mine. Their self-esteem is strong. One of them has a degree in anthropology and will tell you that ideas of beauty and sexuality are “culture bound”—that these ideas are not universal or fixed, and that they vary and fluctuate depending on place and time. They will tell you that too many people suffer because the body they live in is not the body you find in the fashion magazines.

The most important part of this statement is, “Their self-esteem is strong.” What American society does is stigmatize fat people.  This begins at a very early age.  One stigmatizes to elevate one’s own status.  It makes one feel better to put others down.  What this movement is about is empowerment.  It shows the rest of the world that we’re here, we are a part of society – not its pariahs – and you better get use to it.

22 Jan

There’s a big debate right now about we who blog about fat acceptance. Commenters and other bloggers think I’m pushing fat to be the norm. On the contrary, I am pushing for you to be you. If you’re thin, be thin. If you’re fat, be fat. But, don’t let someone stigmatize you for it. If there’s one thing I’ve learned, I don’t need to have other people telling me what is good or bad for my body (thank you very much, Judith Angel). You don’t live in this body. I do. Only I know how I feel emotionally, physically, and spiritually. How I live is between me and my God. You don’t have to understand it. Just accept it.

Far be it from me to push how I live on others. I said this about feederism, and I’ll say it about my current lifestyle – different strokes for different folks.

I do consider myself an activist. This is where the two become one. When I present myself as a Fat Activist, that means I’m advocating for anyone who has been called names, been turned down from a job because they’re too big, or seen any other kind of prejudice because of weight. I’m encouraging people to be healthy at any size.

Heath at Every Size (HAES) is an amazing way of viewing life. It’s about being healthy and heavy. Yes, you can be. It doesn’t mean you have to lose those 10 pounds, if you’re active and eating well. Some people can’t shed the pounds. That’s how they’re made.

Basic Principles of Health At Every SizeSM

1. Accepting and respecting the diversity of body shapes and sizes.

2. Recognizing that health and well-being are multi-dimensional and that they include
physical, social, spiritual, occupational, emotional, and intellectual aspects.

3. Promoting all aspects of health and well-being for people of all sizes.

4. Promoting eating in a manner which balances individual nutritional needs, hunger,
satiety, appetite, and pleasure.

5. Promoting individually appropriate, enjoyable, life-enhancing physical activity, rather
than exercise that is focused on a goal of weight loss.

So do I want to be accepted for who I am? Heck, yeah. And, I’m going to advocate for that acceptance.

Happy 2011!

1 Jan

Happy New Year, one and all. I feel like the past year was a blur in many ways. For over a whole year, I haven’t had a home. The first twelve months were at Brookstone Medical as I worked to lose several hundred pounds, and the last three months I’ve been in Toledo, Ohio, staying with my sister, who also is going through major life changes.

Most people I meet talk about how they hope 2011 will be better than 2010. It’s interesting when people collectively feel pain. The past two years or so have been a collective struggle – economically, psychologically and emotionally. When times like these occur, I truly believe they are meant to bring us together. Typically, people experience pain as individuals, but these great collective struggles exist so we can have empathy for each other. If we see others’ perspectives, we treat each other better.

I’m not saying I wish there were more economic crises, wars or natural disasters, but you have to admit, when they happen, we humans band together. It doesn’t matter if you’re big, small, brown, or white – we take care of each other.

New Year’s resolutions have always felt like a bit of a joke to me, but I’m resolving to make one and take it seriously this year. In 2010, I focused on myself, but in 2011, I’m going to focus on you. Whoever you are. If you’re reading this, I’m focusing on you. I want to help you, if I can. I want to help understand your perspective better, and I want to help you realize if you are happy – truly happy – with the way you live your life, you shouldn’t worry about what anyone else thinks of you. It’s true. They can’t do you any harm.

Be safe, and Happy 2011!

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